Some Things I Wish I Had Learned Sooner..

July 6, 2020

I have really gotten away from sharing these types of posts in the last two years, because even though my passion is for writing and stringing stories together–I’m slowly learning these types of pieces usually perform better in an off line capacity. However, with quarantine in mind, I thought it would be fun to share and see what you guys would tell your younger self.

1) “Your body is a temple.” doesn’t mean you can’t eat dessert or need to deprive yourself of anything. It means you deserve to appreciate the body God gave you, take care of it and love it well! My body changed so much in the two years after I had my second son. I have wrestled with my confidence ever since.

2) God is a gracious God. Unhealthy theology has no place in our lives. PERIODT.

3) Idleness is not, in fact, the devil’s workshop. Turns out, there is beauty, grace, and growth in sitting quietly with a cop of coffee. There are benefits to getting bored, getting more creative, or trying something new just because it interests you.

4) Drink to feel better, not good.

5) Friendships should be about quality over quantity. I’m understanding that friends you pick up right where you left off are the best friendships. The ones that don’t need an explanation if you haven’t been able to respond to a text or schedule the next zoom meeting.

6) Date nights are not the key to a happy marriage— you’ll find that in the laundry room while you work together to fold all the laundry, because everyone keeps puking. Real love is tucked away, not shown in flashy reality shows like the Bachelor. It’s finding a new hobby together, even if that’s the Nintendo Switch, or reminding each other other to take alone. It makes you breakfast, washes the dishes because you hate that, and it takes an ignorance is bliss approach to some of your Amazon purchases.

7) Vegetable consumption is v important– I actually hate most vegetables. I have told you guys this before, but I am trying diligently to get better about eating them. I recently had bloodwork done and honestly, I need work. I’ve been working to infuse my diet with some healthier foods.

8) The worst they can say is “no.”– Just ask for what you’re needing. Sometimes that answer is going to be no. But you will never know until you try.

I have always thought I was a fun person. If you had asked me, I would have said I was free spirited, even. But lately, I’ve seen a million ways I’ve tried simply to mold myself to fit into a box I think I’m supposed to remain in. If I’ve learned anything during quarantine, it’s how quickly life can change. I hope I can come out of this historical time, strengthened and renewed, ready to live my life to the absolute fullest. (and with lower cholesterol.)

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