Parenting Wisdom I Found From “Cheer” on Netflix

February 25, 2020

I cannot tell you guys how many people told me I would love the show “Cheer” on Netflix. To be honest, I was nervous to watch! I was worried they’d poke fun at a sport I know to be challenging. I was a cheerleader growing up, and as a young mama, I coached high school cheerleading. I was so blessed by the coaches in my life, and I dreamt of having some sort of impact on the girls’ I coached. They taught me a lot, especially while I was caring for a baby and toddler. They were a daily reminder of how quickly diapers turn into car keys. Watching Cheer left me completely in my feelings: I was moved by their stories, I was laughing at their antics, and I cried right alongside them. I also realized I live an hour from Daytona Beach and will absolutely be watching them compete IRL come April.

A couple parenting lessons I learned while watching this beautiful six episode docu-series:

Let’s mat talk our kids, okay? I MEAN: LIFT. THEM. UP. Let’s mat talk each other, you see someone at Target, wrestling four kids. Tell her she is SLAYING IT. Imagine how empowered our children would be if we talked to them like Gerry talks to his teammates. Even when he isn’t on mat or feeling great that day. I know I’d love someone to follow me around building me up like that.

It takes a village-– Our kids won’t always confide in us, we’d love that. BUT.. sometimes they just won’t. Build a community of friends and family they can turn to, when we can’t be what they need. I don’t want to give too much away here, but I will say I was so profoundly moved by the way the cheer moms took care of their own. Let’s do that. We were not put on this earth to live without community. Mentor that child, invite that family to dinner, stretch out of your comfort zone. Here’s a quote I love: “when you have more than you need build a longer table not a higher fence.”

Don’t underestimate the power of team sports– I love that my boys are involved in sports, even at an early age. The discipline and life lessons you learn about teamwork, professionalism, loyalty– they will stay with you forever. The impact of a good coach, of great teachers, it stays with us forever.

Teach your kids manners– I loved how Monica encouraged her kids to be leaders on campus. There is something so encouraging about seeing kids say please and thank you and model respect. Maybe its because we all walk around with phones in hand, when someone makes eye contact or speaks with kindness– it feels extra sweet.

Winning isn’t everything, but doing your best is expected. I loved this reminder, I have some over-competitive tendencies, and I don’t want that to be something my boys struggle with. I hope they know as long as they give all they can give, do their absolute best, they know that is enough.

When you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else. I hope my kids learn this from me as I’ve walked through my own journey of trying to do it all. I hope they learn early that saying yes to something means saying no to something else, so priorities need to be firmly aligned.

Overall, Cheer reminded me of the power of great coaches, teamwork, and community. Cheer reminded me the power of affirming one another, especially as mothers. I’m mat talking you all.

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