“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” -Zig Zaglar
Every now and then, as a PASSIONATE stay at home mother, I just feel like I’m spinning my wheels. Going all day and getting to the end wondering if I truly reached my potential. Laying in bed beating myself up for ignoring a dirty toilet just ONE. MORE. DAY.
I feel since we moved to Oregon, I’ve been distracted and my focus lacking. I find myself on social media longer than I like trying to stay connected with old friends, or using social media to meet new friends. For someone who is usually so intentional with time, this always gets me in funk when I sit down and process missed moments in my day.
I want to be someone who prioritizes well. I want to be someone who feels accomplished and proud when I lay my head down at night. I want to be someone who sits on the ground and plays with my children. I want to be someone who doesn’t feel stressed about the things I didn’t get done.
I have a feeling some of you feel this same way, so I’m sharing some of my favorite ways to eliminate distractions.
Delete those emails- I have a cringe worthy problem, that drives many of my friends and family insane in the membrane. I’m an email saver. BUT.. I deleted a ton of them, because I don’t need that mental clutter.
Unsubscribe to email lists: So, I love being on email lists to keep up with my deals, but again. Mental clutter that I do not need. So, instead of having their emails filling up my inbox. I’m focusing on following my favorite stores and brands on social media so I can quickly scroll through during designated time and know the best deals. I used Unroll.Me and really loved the service!
Get out of those Facebook groups- This was a more time consuming than I’d originally planned for. I couldn’t find an easier way to leave these groups, other than going one at a time. I was tired of getting notifications for stuff that isn’t really relevant in my life. I made a few groups my favorites, but limited the notifications.
Unfollow or delete people: I’ve had to step it up in this department in our current political climate. This may shock people, but I do understand our country is in crisis. I don’t need your continuously negative posts taking over my newsfeed. I also don’t need to follow you, alarmist mom I met one time, sharing all the ways my boys can die from a Popsicle stick, a tick bite, or drowning except dry.
Set timers: I’m willing to bet that I’m not the only mom who has set an alarm for their children. A reading goal, a cleaning time frame, whatver. We set timers for our kids, so why can’t we do it for ourselves?
Hang out with your friends in person: This can be a really, really, really hard for one for moms. Our schedules conflict, nap times don’t line up, kids get sick, whatever. However, if you’re not careful those text/phone relationships can start to collect all of your discretionary time. I know this from experience. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you need to physically see them. You are building a village and you want your family to know your friends. And talk in person, right in the middle of the mess. = true connection.
Know when to delegate- I order the bulk of my groceries from Safeway. I can get a few more hours out of my week by having my groceries delivered and it isn’t costing me anything extra, so why wouldn’t I utilize that? Can you order online, or hire someone to babysit a couple hours of week so you can contribute REALLY hard on some tasks? All of which might allow you a few hours of intentional motherhood. Also, don’t forget you can always barter with friends!
Multi task well- I think as mothers we often get hung up on productivity. So, we try to multitask, but we don’t do it well. We get scatter brained and overwhelmed (or just me?) No matter how much we need to accomplish in a single day, focus on one thing at a time. A couple exceptions: listening to audiobooks/podcasts, making food in the crockpot while you clean, letting your clothes wash/dry while your robot vacuums. Know your limits.
These are all tips from a mama strengthening her own focus and being as present as possible in the reel of her children’s lives. Hopefully, these tips are helpful in some way. What are your productivity, present boosting tips?!